the game supports total wasteland violence if the wasteland lets it happen. that is part of the sandbox. unfortunately all the sandbox elements are directly tied into pvp at the moment, that is simply the truth. it is clear that the focus has thus far been on pvp. the game revolves around combat -- through factions or through individuals -- which some enjoy, while others will seek to berate at any cost. if the game isn't for you, it isn't for you.
it is still early on the server and apk/pk towns/areas have not been fully "decided"... give it a couple more weeks and things will be more clear. if you do not enjoy pvp in all its form, including losing, and losing miserably, then you're not going to have fun in a pvp game. when you get 1shot by someone with a weak gun while you are wearing BOS CA and a t3 weapon, you must learn to laugh. it is all part of the game. if that happened to some of these posters, they would come to the boards and cry about how getting 1shotted ruins the game.
just play the game how you want to play it, and all will turn out. if you give up before you get started, you only have yourself to blame for not liking it.